We all doubt
ourselves from time to time. We want to be loved, we want to fit in. We are all
different and that is amazing. You are amazing with all that you are. Dare to
stick out, dare to shine!
I want to write down
a few things that have helped me to feel a bit better about myself. Like I said
though everyone doubt themselves from time to time, after all thats a way to
learn and improve who you are. If you always walk around thinking you are perfect
in every way you will not get that far in life.
- Don't be too
hard on yourself!
Stop
beating yourself up. A lot of people judge themselves so much more than they
would their best friend. Think about yourself as your best friend. What would
he/ she say about the situation? Surely your best friend wouldn't tell you over
and over how stupid or hopeless you are? Or that you don't look good enough or
that you don't deserve the things you want in life. (If that's the case you
should probably find a better friend).
What
would you tell your best friend if he/she was in your shoes? Be kind, even to
yourself, you deserve it! Learn from your mistakes and move on. Don't put them
in a big pile and let them define who you are cuz you are not your mistakes.
You're
body language tells a lot about you. When you feel insecure think about your
posture. Stand up tall and hold your head up high. Take a deep breath and think
"confidence" it can actually make you feel better about yourself in a
blink of an eye. Of course though like with everything in life, practice makes
perfect.
Don't
let negativity be your joy killer. The grass is not always greener on the other
side. We all have problems to deal with in our lives. If you always focus on
the bad things in your life, how will you be able to see the good when it's
coming your way? I have often been writing lists about the things in my life
that I'm thankful for. Big or small it doesn't matter. Thank you sunshine for
shining on me today (even if it was only for 10 minutes). Thank you stranger
for the smile you gave me while I was walking down the street. Thank you for
taking your time to ask me how I'm feeling today.
I
think you get the idea. If you're not into writing lists say it out loud to
yourself before going to bed every evening or just think it quietly in your
head.
Write
a little note with a short message to yourself and put it on your mirror in the
bathroom so that you can see it everyday, something positive to yourself like:
"I
love and respect myself"
"This
day will be great I won't let anyone ruin it"
"I
am confident and I'm loved"
Then
read it everyday in the morning as a reminder. Maybe you don't believe the
words you have written down from the start but when you repeat it over and over
it will slowly sink in.
Love
comes from within. Start loving yourself!
I'm
the kind of person who doesn't really care much about what I'm wearing or what
the people around me think about it (it's not their business anyway). I love my
wayyy too big sweatpants to go along with a top or a big t-shirt a messy
ponytail and no makeup or even yesterday's makeup.
I'm not saying throw your comfy, worn out,
ugly clothes away (I'm gonna keep loving mines, and of course wear them when I
feel like it).
Altough
when I do get myself ready (especially in the morning when I have the whole day
in front of me). I put some nice clothes on, I do my makeup and a nice hairdo.
I feel like i get more done in my day and it makes me feel a lot better about
myself. By doing that I don't have an excuse for being lazy, I'm already up and
ready to deal with what life throws at me!
It's
okay to say no, it's okay to take time for yourself and be a bit selfish
sometimes. It's only you that's writing the story of your life and you are the
main person in your own story! Follow your dreams and listen to yourself and
what you want.
- You can't
always be on top
Thats totally fine! No one is on top always, we all
have good and bad days. That's okay we don't always have to act like super
heroes. Be honest about it, let's say you are having a really bad day and a
coworker ask you how you are. You don't have to put up a fake smile and be like
I'm great thanks. Tell them "thanks
for asking I'm not doing great today I'm sorry if I seem a bit off. You don't
have to give them a reason why if you don't feel like it. Thats up to you, if
you want to talk about it they might be kind and lend an ear.
I
normally tell my coworkers without them asking how I feel if I'm having a bad
day
"I'm
sorry if I'm a bit off today, I'm just having a bad day it's nothing personal
just so you guys know".
Then they know already and they don't have to
wonder why I'm being more quiet than normal or if I forget something or
whatever it may be. It's okay to feel not okay at times. If it keeps happening
often you might want to go talk to someone about it though.
